Sunday, January 4, 2009

#5 He is adventurous!

One of the small but important things that attracts me to people is when they are willing to try new things and venture away from their everyday lives. This can be as crazy as skydiving or as simple as trying a new food. I can't imagine living my life having never tried anything new or taking any risks!

It makes me so happy that Zak can always be counted on to try something fun and new. Just within the last several weeks he has eaten herring and gone caving with my family. We can't wait to travel the world and experience as many new and interesting things as possible! I know our lives are going to crazy and interesting and not at all boring.

#4 We can have a great time doing almost nothing.

We can do as much or as little as we'd like and still have a fantastic day! I became friends with Zak because he was the easiest person for me to talk to and hang out with, without doing much of anything. Our friendship started with drinking coffee at starbucks when we weren't working, and drinking beer/playing cards at home. Somehow he became my favorite person to hang out with and the more time we spent together, the more we realized we didn't want to be apart! Today we just spent the whole day relaxing and playing Mario Kart, and it was wonderful.

Wednesday, December 31, 2008

#3 He loves and respects me more than anyone I have ever known.

What began as a curious (although very personal) question to one of my coworkers this evening somehow turned into a long discussion about families, relationships, and love. I magically became an articulate, experienced, "wisdom-ous"* version of my crazy, stressed, wedding-planning self.

Although the conversation revolved around children and marriage, and being married with or without children, I began answering a series of questions related to our relationship, my past experiences, our first date, and how I can know he is really "The One". (Even though the term reminds me too much of The Matrix to use with a straight mind.)

I described our friendship, our first date, a few subsequent encounters, and our engagement. I told how he is so much of what I have always wanted in my best friend and husband that now I can't imagine there being a single person in the entire world that I could ever like and adore nearly so much. I also come to realize more each day how much this man truly respects and cares for me in a way that I can hardly describe. I know that my well-being and happiness is always his first priority, every day. And even though I love a strong man that can stand his ground and be a true leader, I feel so completely lucky to have found a man that not only fills those shoes, but can also be sweet and sacrificing every single day.

And THAT, my friends, is why I am marrying him.

*Joey Tribiani, Friends, Season 10, Episode 12

#2 He always understands when I am tired

This one is important because we are so busy right now, and with the chaos I see in our future, I can't ever see either of us getting more rest than we are at this point in our lives! When I haven't gotten much sleep or have had a long day, he always says "Babe, are you going to take a nap? I can't believe you're still awake right now!" and he always encourages me to get to bed early when I have to get up early in the morning. I never get looked down on for wanting to go home early, not wanting to do something because I'm tired, or taking a 4 hour nap in the middle of the day (because I had only gotten 2 hours of sleep the night before). And for all of that kindness and understanding I am thankful. :)

#1 He loves me unconditionally for who I am

One of the most amazing things about this man is how much he constantly shows his love and affection. He knows me inside and out, all of my compulsive tendencies and bitchiness and past mistakes, and it doesn't ever seem to effect his adoration of me. He loves me for who I am and nothing that I am not, and his absolutely committed to making me happy and being here for me for the rest of our lives and beyond. I hope I can someday be as understanding and compassionate to him and others as he is to me!