Wednesday, December 31, 2008

#3 He loves and respects me more than anyone I have ever known.

What began as a curious (although very personal) question to one of my coworkers this evening somehow turned into a long discussion about families, relationships, and love. I magically became an articulate, experienced, "wisdom-ous"* version of my crazy, stressed, wedding-planning self.

Although the conversation revolved around children and marriage, and being married with or without children, I began answering a series of questions related to our relationship, my past experiences, our first date, and how I can know he is really "The One". (Even though the term reminds me too much of The Matrix to use with a straight mind.)

I described our friendship, our first date, a few subsequent encounters, and our engagement. I told how he is so much of what I have always wanted in my best friend and husband that now I can't imagine there being a single person in the entire world that I could ever like and adore nearly so much. I also come to realize more each day how much this man truly respects and cares for me in a way that I can hardly describe. I know that my well-being and happiness is always his first priority, every day. And even though I love a strong man that can stand his ground and be a true leader, I feel so completely lucky to have found a man that not only fills those shoes, but can also be sweet and sacrificing every single day.

And THAT, my friends, is why I am marrying him.

*Joey Tribiani, Friends, Season 10, Episode 12

#2 He always understands when I am tired

This one is important because we are so busy right now, and with the chaos I see in our future, I can't ever see either of us getting more rest than we are at this point in our lives! When I haven't gotten much sleep or have had a long day, he always says "Babe, are you going to take a nap? I can't believe you're still awake right now!" and he always encourages me to get to bed early when I have to get up early in the morning. I never get looked down on for wanting to go home early, not wanting to do something because I'm tired, or taking a 4 hour nap in the middle of the day (because I had only gotten 2 hours of sleep the night before). And for all of that kindness and understanding I am thankful. :)

#1 He loves me unconditionally for who I am

One of the most amazing things about this man is how much he constantly shows his love and affection. He knows me inside and out, all of my compulsive tendencies and bitchiness and past mistakes, and it doesn't ever seem to effect his adoration of me. He loves me for who I am and nothing that I am not, and his absolutely committed to making me happy and being here for me for the rest of our lives and beyond. I hope I can someday be as understanding and compassionate to him and others as he is to me!